Changes

The world is full of change. Whether it's your scenery, friends, mood, the weather, everything's always changing. They could be positive changes, or negative changes, but either way you must learn to cope with them. Since the middle of my senior year up until the present I have gone through so many changes that are still hard to cope with from day to day. I lost a lot of people that I spent my entire life with that I thought were my friends, I'm experiencing my first year in college, all the while trying to juggle my friends, family, new relationships, old relationships, and most of all just trying to keep myself happy.

The way I see it is you have two options. 
Number one, you can sit there and dwell on how badly you want things to go back to the way they were before. Holding grudges and caging bitterness inside you will never, and I mean never, get you anywhere in this life. Every day there are some people who will go out of their way to make you miserable. I have learned a lot about those kinds of people, and the only reason why they try to make you miserable, is because they are miserable themselves. I do not see how that is a life. I don't understand how a person can live their life solely to make everyone around them unhappy. Be the other person, be the person who lives their life solely to make other people around them happy, but more importantly, live your life to make you happy.

And option number two...you can take these changes, turn them into a learning experience, and move on. Even though I went through some tricky experiences throughout my senior year and up until now, I feel like I have really learned how to take each negative and positive experience and turn it into a lesson. I do not regret a single thing that I've gone through in my life. I know for a fact all of the people who used to be in my life were just passing by and they left me behind a stronger, more experienced person than I was before.

The topic of change has recently been a big part of my life. I'd like to think I am in control of everything, I'm stubborn at times, and I like to figure things out for myself. But when something out of my control is happening, where does that leave me? It leaves me to prepare for another change. Another chance to become stronger, another chance to learn.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference."

-Reinhold Niebuhr